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I write weekly about the strategies, habits, and tactics around cultivating the connections that matter to you.
When was the last time you felt completely insignificant?
When was the last time you felt completely comforted? What if that was at the same time, and all it took was three words?
I had just spent ten minutes disgorging myself of the toxic swirl of anxieties and thought patterns I had bouncing around in my head over the prior decade. As I explained to the coach, I thought something was truly wrong with me.
His only response was to chuckle and utter the words… “you’re so typical.”
At first, I felt completely disheartened. Was I not special and unique? Part of me took a big hit. Maybe because he repeated it four more times.
As I let the words melt into me, I could feel myself calming down. He encounters high-performing founders like myself all the time, and he saw a pattern none of us could. There wasn’t anything distinctly wrong with me. The journey ahead no longer seemed so lonely.
Years later, I’m passing on that gift three to four times a week.
Most of my conversations with people who are looking to deepen their practice of nurturing their relationships - whether for their current business, career or just life in general - usually start with a long confession of what they’re not doing.
“I haven’t done a good job staying in touch with past clients”
“I’m never sure what to say”
“I feel bad because it’s been so long”
“I’ve been doing all of this from memory, and don’t have any kind of system”
My usual response?
I have good news and bad news. You’re not a unique snowflake. Replace “I” with “Most people.”
Why This Matters
Community: Knowing others face similar hurdles reminds us we're part of a community, making our journey less lonely.
Learning: Shared challenges mean shared solutions. There's a wealth of knowledge to tap into from those who've been in your shoes.
and most importantly:The other side: This is the big one. The people you have struggled to stay in touch with most likely have the same struggle themselves. For all you know, they faced the same blocker reaching out to you to.
You’re not alone in your struggles - but you can be one of the few that takes action today.
Next time you find yourself thinking, "I'm the only one struggling with this," pause and remember that many others likely share your concerns. Reach out, share your experiences, and you might just find the solutions and support you need within your network.
-Zvi
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